There is nothing wrong with making a mistake. It’s what you say to yourself after you mess up that matters. Your self-talk (the thoughts you have about your feelings) can either magnify the negativity or help you turn that misstep into something productive.
犯錯(cuò)沒什么特別的。這是在你搞砸了重要的事情之后自我安慰的話。你的自言自語（你對(duì)于自己感受的那些想法）要么擴(kuò)大負(fù)面影響要么幫助你把那一個(gè)過失轉(zhuǎn)變成具有創(chuàng)造力的東西。

Negative self-talk is unrealistic, unnecessary, and self-defeating. It sends you into a downward emotional spiral that is difficult to pull out of.
負(fù)向歸因（消極的自我對(duì)話）是不切實(shí)際的，毫無意義的，也是自我打擊的。它會(huì)把你帶進(jìn)一個(gè)向下的情感漩渦，難以自拔。

All self-talk is driven by important beliefs that you hold about yourself. It plays an understated but powerful role in success because it can both spur you forward to achieve your goals and hold you back.
任何自我對(duì)話都受你所相信的信條驅(qū)使。在通往成功的路上，它扮演著一個(gè)不張揚(yáng)卻是力量強(qiáng)大的角色，因?yàn)樗饶茯?qū)使你達(dá)成目標(biāo)，也會(huì)拖你的后腿。

As Henry Ford said, “He who believes he can and he who believes he cannot are both correct.”
正如Henry Ford所說：“‘他認(rèn)為自己能行’與‘他認(rèn)為自己不行’的說法都是正確的?！?/div>

TalentSmart has tested the emotional intelligence (EQ) of more than a million people and found that 90% of top performers are high in EQ. These successful, high EQ individuals possess an important skill—the ability to recognize and control negative self-talk so that it doesn’t prevent them from reaching their full potential. This is something many of them learned in emotional intelligence training.
Talent Smart公司測(cè)試了超過100萬人的情緒智商，并且發(fā)現(xiàn)90%表現(xiàn)出色的人都具備高水平的情商。這些成功的情商高的人具備一項(xiàng)重要的技能——識(shí)別和控制消極的自我對(duì)話，防止它阻礙個(gè)人充分發(fā)揮潛力。這是他們之間許多人從情商訓(xùn)練當(dāng)中所學(xué)到的東西。

These successful people earn an average of $28,000 more annually than their low EQ peers, get promoted more often, and receive higher marks on performance evaluations. The link between EQ and earnings is so direct that every point increase in EQ adds $1,300 to an annual salary.
這些成功的人們，他們比那些低情商水平的同齡人每年多賺取二萬八千美元，常常被擢升，還會(huì)在績(jī)效考核中獲取高分?jǐn)?shù)。情商與收入之間的相關(guān)性是如此的直接，以致情商測(cè)試分?jǐn)?shù)每增加一分就會(huì)在年薪增加一萬三千美元中體現(xiàn)。

When it comes to self-talk, we’ve discovered six common, yet toxic, beliefs that hold people back more than any others. Be mindful of your tendencies to succumb to these beliefs, so that they don’t derail your career:
當(dāng)談?wù)摰疥P(guān)于自我對(duì)話的話題時(shí)，我們發(fā)現(xiàn)了6個(gè)常見的，同時(shí)也“有毒”的信條，它們比其他信條更阻礙人們的進(jìn)步。請(qǐng)細(xì)心留意自己是否有向這些信條臣服的傾向，防止它們擾亂你的職業(yè)軌道。

Toxic Belief #1: Perfection = Success
有毒信條之一：完美=成功

Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible. When perfection is your goal, you’re always left with a nagging sense of failure, and end up spending your time lamenting what you failed to accomplish, instead of enjoying what you were able to achieve.
人類，從我們的本質(zhì)來說，都是會(huì)犯錯(cuò)的。如果你把追求完美當(dāng)成目標(biāo)，你就總能感受到一絲絲的挫敗感，最后只會(huì)在無法達(dá)成目的時(shí)浪費(fèi)時(shí)間抱怨，而不是享受已有的成就。

Toxic Belief #2: My Destiny is Predetermined
有毒信條之二：我的命運(yùn)已經(jīng)固定了

Far too many people succumb to the highly irrational idea that they are destined to succeed or fail. Make no mistake about it, your destiny is in your own hands, and blaming multiple successes or failures on forces beyond your control is nothing more than a cop out. Sometimes life will deal you difficult cards to play, and others times you’ll be holding aces. Your willingness to give your all in playing any hand you’re holding determines your ultimate success or failure in life.
太多太多人臣服于這個(gè)極度不理智的說法，認(rèn)為自己注定成功或注定失敗。完全可以肯定的是，你的命運(yùn)在你自己的手中，抱怨成功或失敗不在你的控制之中僅僅是為了逃避。有時(shí)候生活會(huì)給你發(fā)一手爛牌，有時(shí)候也會(huì)給你一手好牌。你每一次給出牌意愿將會(huì)決定你的人生中的最終成就或失敗。

Toxic Belief #3: I “Always” or “Never” Do That
有毒信條之三：我“總是”或“絕不”做

There isn’t anything in life that you always or never do. You may do something a lot or not do something enough, but framing your behavior in terms of “always” or “never” is a form of self-pity. It makes you believe that you have no control of yourself and will never change. Don’t succumb to it.
生活中沒有什么事情是你總會(huì)做或永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)做的。你可能會(huì)常常做某件事或不怎么做某件事，但是你把自己的行為根據(jù)“總是”或“絕不”的框架來設(shè)定，這只是一種自怨自艾的形式。它讓你相信你對(duì)自己毫無控制權(quán)，也永遠(yuǎn)不回改變。不要相信這個(gè)謬論。

Toxic Belief #4: I Succeed When Others Approve of Me
有毒信條之四：別人贊同我，我就成功了

Regardless of what people think of you at any particular moment, one thing is certain?you’re never as good or bad as they say you are. It’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, but you can take people’s opinions with a grain of salt. That way, no matter what people think about you, your self-worth comes only from within.
無論在任何一個(gè)時(shí)候別人對(duì)你的想法是什么，有一件事情是肯定的——你永遠(yuǎn)不是像他們所說的那么好或那么差。你無法在他人對(duì)你產(chǎn)生想法時(shí)關(guān)掉自己反應(yīng)，但是你可以有保留地接收別人的觀點(diǎn)。這樣做的話，無論別人對(duì)你有什么想法，你的自我價(jià)值觀只會(huì)從內(nèi)而生。

Toxic Belief #5: My Past = My Future
有毒的信條之五：我的過去=我的未來

Repeated failures can erode your self-confidence and make it hard to believe you’ll achieve a better outcome in the future. Most of the time, these failures result from taking risks and trying to achieve something that isn’t easy. Just remember that success lies in your ability to rise in the face of failure. Anything worth achieving is going to require you to take some risks, and you can’t allow failure to stop you from believing in your ability to succeed.
重復(fù)的失敗會(huì)毀了你的自信心，也會(huì)讓你很難相信自己會(huì)有個(gè)美好的將來。大多數(shù)情況下，這些失敗只是來源于冒險(xiǎn)和嘗試去實(shí)現(xiàn)某些不太容易實(shí)現(xiàn)的事情。你只需要記住，成功就潛在于你面對(duì)失敗時(shí)的能力當(dāng)中。任何值得去實(shí)現(xiàn)的事情都需要你去冒險(xiǎn)，并且不能被失敗阻礙你相信自己能夠成功。

Toxic Belief #6: My Emotions = Reality
有毒的信條之六：我的情緒=現(xiàn)實(shí)

If you’ve read Emotional Intelligence 2.0, you know how to take an objective look at your feelings and separate fact from fiction. If not, you might want to read it. Otherwise, your emotions will continue to skew your sense of reality, making you vulnerable to the negative self-talk that can hold you back from achieving your full potential.
如果你早已閱讀Emotional Intelligence 2.0的調(diào)查研究，你就會(huì)知道如何客觀地看待自己的感受，區(qū)別現(xiàn)實(shí)與虛構(gòu)場(chǎng)景。如果你還沒有，那么你就需要去閱讀一下。否則，你的情緒就會(huì)繼續(xù)讓你的真實(shí)感產(chǎn)生偏差，使你在自我消極對(duì)話當(dāng)中變得敏感脆弱，阻礙你充分發(fā)揮潛力。

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