1.Disarm them with your vulnerability
1.示弱讓他們放松警惕

Sometimes the quickest way to make another person comfortable is to be vulnerable yourself. On a flight? Tell your seatmate, “Flying makes me a little nervous.”
有時(shí)讓別人舒服的最快方法就是示弱。坐飛機(jī)時(shí)可以告訴同座的乘客“坐飛機(jī)我有點(diǎn)緊張?！?/div>

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2. Be brutally honest
2.敢說(shuō)真話

I find that being honest is best as it doesn’t waste anyone’s time.
我發(fā)現(xiàn)誠(chéng)實(shí)最好，因?yàn)椴焕速M(fèi)任何人的時(shí)間。

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3. Tell them their celebrity doppelganger
3.說(shuō)別人長(zhǎng)得像名人

“Did anyone ever tell you that you look just like Sophia Vergara? ” This approach is always effective and the person on the receiving end will say thank you.
“有人跟你說(shuō)過(guò)你長(zhǎng)得像Sophia Vergara嗎？”這個(gè)說(shuō)法總是很有效，對(duì)方還會(huì)說(shuō)謝謝。

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4. ‘Cheers’ them
4.跟他們干杯

If you are in a bar and looking for an excuse to talk to someone, just go up and raise your glass and say “cheers!”This is effective because it’s non-threatening.
如果你在酒吧想找理由跟別人搭訕，就走過(guò)去舉起杯說(shuō)“干杯！”，這招很有效，因?yàn)闆](méi)有威脅性。

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5. Size them up
5.讓他們幫你量尺寸

People love to be seen as useful. For instance, if you’re shopping ask them what they think of a fit because the person you’re buying for is about their size.
人們喜歡別人覺(jué)得自己有用，比如購(gòu)物時(shí)問(wèn)問(wèn)他們覺(jué)得某個(gè)尺碼合不合適，因?yàn)橐┻@件衣服的人和對(duì)方身材差不多。

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6. Ask about a mutual friend
6.談?wù)撘幌鹿餐呐笥?/strong>

Mutual friends are good conversation starters when you are invited by the same person. Asking “So how do you know Mike? ” allows the two of you to get to know each other.
你們被同一個(gè)人邀請(qǐng)時(shí)共同的朋友是很好的話題，詢問(wèn)“你怎么認(rèn)識(shí)Mike的？”能讓你們兩個(gè)了解對(duì)方。

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7. Plan a dream vacation
7.計(jì)劃一次夢(mèng)想之旅

Ask someone “If you got a free ticket to anywhere in the world tomorrow, where would it be?”It’s a great way to learn about them.
詢問(wèn)某個(gè)人“如果你明天有一張去世界任何地方的免費(fèi)票，你會(huì)去哪兒？”這是一個(gè)了解對(duì)方的好方法。

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8. Scare them (just a little)
8.嚇到對(duì)方（輕微地）

One of my favorite conversation starters is asking “What was your high school mascot?” It immediately takes the person back to their childhood. Then I follow up by joking, “You know that you just gave me the answer to one of your online security questions, right?” People usually laugh, often launching into a conversation about online identity theft.
我最喜歡的一個(gè)開(kāi)場(chǎng)白就是問(wèn)“你高中吉祥物是什么？”馬上就能讓對(duì)方回憶起童年。然后我再開(kāi)玩笑說(shuō)“你知道你剛告訴我你網(wǎng)上安全問(wèn)題的答案了嗎？”人們通常會(huì)笑，然后開(kāi)始跟你聊網(wǎng)上身份盜竊。

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9. Repeat what they said
9.重復(fù)對(duì)方的話

If you don’t know what to say, reflect back what you hear the other person saying and offer compassion. This allows the other person to feel accepted.
如果你不知道說(shuō)什么，就重復(fù)你聽(tīng)到的對(duì)方所說(shuō)的話并且表達(dá)同情，這讓對(duì)方感覺(jué)被你接受了。

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10. Join the fun
10.湊熱鬧

Introduce yourself by going up and saying “You look like you’re having a lot of fun so I wanted to come and say Hi!”This is effective because it exudes confidence and charisma.
走上前介紹自己，說(shuō)：“你們看起來(lái)很熱鬧，所以我想過(guò)來(lái)打個(gè)招呼！”這很有效，因?yàn)槟苷宫F(xiàn)你的自信和魅力。

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（翻譯：菲菲）