She figured I'm obviously a pretty offbeat and interesting guy, and she was intrigued enough to make a few phone calls to friends of hers in the computer science community. "What do you know about Randy Pausch?" she asked. "Is he gay?" She was told I was not. In fact, she was told I had a reputation as a player who'd never settle down (well, to the extent that a computer scientist can be considered a "player"). As for Jai, she had been married briefly to her college sweetheart, and after that ended in divorce, with no children, she was gun-shy about getting serious again. From the moment I met her the day of my visit, I just found myself staring at her. She's a beauty, of course, and she had this gorgeous long hair then, and this smile that said a lot about both her warmth and her impishness. I was brought into a lab to watch students demonstrate their virtual reality projects, and I had trouble concentrating on any of them because Jai was standing there. Soon enough, I was flirting pretty aggressively. Because this was a professional setting, that meant I was making far more eye contact than was appreciate. Jai later told me: "I couldn't tell if you did that with everyone, or if you were singling me out." Believe me, I was singling.