“If only…” These two words paired together create one of the saddest phrases in the English language. Here are ten choices that ultimately lead to this phrase of regret, and how to elude them:
“要是……就好了”這絕對(duì)是最悲催的一個(gè)句型。下面是你絕對(duì)會(huì)后悔的10個(gè)選擇，來(lái)看看該如何避免它們：

1. Wearing a mask to impress others.
為了取悅他人戴著面具生活。

If the face you always show the world is a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. Because when you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who everyone else wants you to be, you eventually forget who you really are. So don’t fear the judgments of others; you know in your heart who you are and what’s true to you. You don’t have to be perfect to impress and inspire people. Let them be impressed and inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.
如果你總是戴著面具面對(duì)世界，總有一天面具下會(huì)是一個(gè)空殼。因?yàn)楫?dāng)你花了太多時(shí)間專(zhuān)注于他人對(duì)你的看法，或者其他人希望你成為怎樣的人，你最終會(huì)忘記你到底是誰(shuí)。所以不要害怕他人的評(píng)判，你的心里很清楚你是誰(shuí)，哪些才是你真實(shí)的一面。你沒(méi)有必要為了取悅他人而追求完美。用你克服不完美的方式來(lái)打動(dòng)別人。

2. Letting someone else create your dreams for you.
讓別人來(lái)打造你的夢(mèng)想。

The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find. A big part of this is your decision to stay true to your own goals and dreams. Do you have people who disagree with you? Good. It means you’re standing your ground and walking your own path. Sometimes you’ll do things considered crazy by others, but when you catch yourself excitedly losing track of time, that’s when you’ll know you’re doing the right thing.
人生最大的挑戰(zhàn)在于發(fā)現(xiàn)你是誰(shuí)；而第二大的挑戰(zhàn)就是樂(lè)于接受你所發(fā)現(xiàn)的東西。很重要的一點(diǎn)在于你做出的決定能忠實(shí)于自己的目標(biāo)和夢(mèng)想。你周?chē)欠裼行┤瞬煌饽愕臎Q定呢？很好。這意味著你正堅(jiān)定立場(chǎng)，走自己的路。有時(shí)你所做的事情在別人看來(lái)很瘋狂，但當(dāng)你興奮地投入其中甚至忘記了時(shí)間，那時(shí)你就會(huì)知道，你正在做一件對(duì)的事。

3. Keeping negative company.
和負(fù)面情緒的人為伴。

Don’t let someone who has a bad attitude give it to you. Don’t let them get to you. They can’t pull the trigger if you don’t hand them the gun. When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.
別讓那些態(tài)度消極的人左右你，別讓他們接近你。如果你不給他們機(jī)會(huì)，他們就無(wú)法對(duì)你帶來(lái)影響。你要記住，和這些負(fù)面情緒的人為伴并不是一種義務(wù)，只是在于你的選擇。這樣你就會(huì)親近那些有同情心的人，遠(yuǎn)離那些憤怒的人；親近那些寬容的人，遠(yuǎn)離那些貪婪的人；親近那些有耐心的人，遠(yuǎn)離那些焦躁的人。

4. Being selfish and egotistical.
自私任性。

A life filled with loving deeds and good character is the best tombstone. Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your time has expired. So carve your name on hearts, not stone. What you have done for yourself alone dies with you; what you have done for others and the world remains.
充滿善行和美好品質(zhì)的一生是一個(gè)人最好的墓碑。那些你所激勵(lì)過(guò)而且與他們分享了你的愛(ài)的人，即使你已經(jīng)離開(kāi)這個(gè)世界很久，也會(huì)記得你所給予他們的。把你的名字刻在他們心中，而不是石頭上。你為自己做的事情會(huì)隨著你的離世一起消亡；而你為他人和這個(gè)世界做的事情會(huì)長(zhǎng)存。

5. Avoiding change and growth.
拒絕改變和成長(zhǎng)。

If you want to know your past look into your present conditions. If you want to know your future look into your present actions. You must let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back. If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success.
如果你想了解自己的過(guò)去，就看看你目前的狀況。如果你想了解你的未來(lái)，就看看你目前的行動(dòng)。你應(yīng)該放下過(guò)去，為新的生活努力；過(guò)去已經(jīng)過(guò)去，永遠(yuǎn)不可能再回來(lái)。如果你現(xiàn)在能正確意識(shí)到這一點(diǎn)，并且為之而努力，你一定會(huì)獲得長(zhǎng)久的成功。

6. Giving up when the going gets tough.
遇到困難輕言放棄。

There are no failures, just results. Even if things don’t unfold the way you had expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. Learn what you can and move on. The one who continues to advance one step at a time will win in the end. Because the battle is always won far away and long before the final victory. It’s a process that occurs with small steps, decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other and eventually lead to that glorious moment of triumph.
并沒(méi)有失敗，只有失敗的結(jié)果。即使事情并不如你所愿，也不要灰心或者放棄。總結(jié)教訓(xùn)，繼續(xù)前進(jìn)。那些一步一個(gè)腳印繼續(xù)前進(jìn)的人也會(huì)贏得最終的勝利。因?yàn)樵缭谧罱K的勝利到來(lái)之前，他們的態(tài)度就已經(jīng)贏下了這場(chǎng)戰(zhàn)役。在這個(gè)過(guò)程中，那些小的進(jìn)步、決定和行動(dòng)都會(huì)逐漸累積，最終為他們帶來(lái)勝利的光榮時(shí)刻。

7. Trying to micromanage every little thing.
過(guò)于緊張每一件小事。

Life should be touched, not strangled. Sometimes you’ve got to relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement. Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight. Take a deep breath. When the dust settles and you can once again see the forest for the trees, take the next step forward. You don’t have to know exactly where you’re going to be headed somewhere great. Everything in life is in perfect order whether you understand it yet or not. It just takes some time to connect all the dots.
生活需要觸碰，而不是緊握。有時(shí)候你需要放松，讓生活順其自然，不要過(guò)分擔(dān)心，也不要過(guò)于細(xì)致的規(guī)劃。學(xué)會(huì)放松一點(diǎn)，不要握得太緊。深呼吸。塵埃落定時(shí)你會(huì)再次看見(jiàn)森林中的樹(shù)木，再邁出前進(jìn)的下一步。你沒(méi)有必要明確知道你會(huì)去往哪個(gè)好地方。生活中的一切都有完美的順序，不論你現(xiàn)在是否理解。只是需要一些時(shí)間把每一站聯(lián)系起來(lái)。

8. Settling for less than you deserve.
太容易滿足。

Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve. Sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you ever were before. Sometimes your eyes need to be washed by your tears so you can see the possibilities in front of you with a clearer vision again. Don’t settle.
你需要足夠堅(jiān)強(qiáng)才能放下過(guò)去。你需要足夠智慧才能爭(zhēng)取到你所應(yīng)得的東西。有時(shí)你不得不退一兩步，才能達(dá)到比以往更高的高度。有時(shí)你的雙眼只有經(jīng)過(guò)淚水的洗禮，才能更清楚地看見(jiàn)前方的各種可能。不要滿足于現(xiàn)狀。

9. Endlessly waiting until tomorrow.
無(wú)止境的拖延。

The trouble is, you always think you have more time than you do. But one day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to work on the things you’ve always wanted to do. And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t.
問(wèn)題在于，你的時(shí)間永遠(yuǎn)沒(méi)有你想象中那么多。有一天當(dāng)你醒來(lái)時(shí)會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，你再?zèng)]有時(shí)間去做那些你一直想做的事情了。那時(shí)你要么已經(jīng)實(shí)現(xiàn)了自己的目標(biāo)，要么為你沒(méi)有實(shí)現(xiàn)的目標(biāo)找一大堆理由。

10. Being lazy and wishy-washy.
懶惰無(wú)力。

The world doesn’t owe you anything, you owe the world something. So stop daydreaming and start DOING. Develop a backbone, not a wishbone. Take full responsibility for your life – take control. You are important and you are needed. It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday. Someday is now; the somebody the world needs is YOU.
這個(gè)世界并不欠你什么，而你卻欠這個(gè)世界的。所以別在做白日夢(mèng)，開(kāi)始行動(dòng)吧。挺起背來(lái)，別趴下。對(duì)你的人生負(fù)責(zé)，掌控一切。你是如此重要如此被需要。如果坐在那里等著某一天某個(gè)人來(lái)為你做點(diǎn)什么，那就太晚了。某一天就是現(xiàn)在；這個(gè)世界需要的某個(gè)人就是你自己。