心情不好?把所有問題全寫下來!
作者:raystar 譯
2013-07-19 08:30
Putting pen to paper can be very therapeutic when you’re troubled—sitting at a keyboard doesn’t have the same effect as sitting in a quiet spot and getting your thoughts down on paper. You don’t necessarily have to share those thoughts with anyone, although you could decide to show your insightful writing to a counselor or a therapist to help you make sense of what you have discovered about yourself. Here are some life problems that you can make sense of through the power of words:
當(dāng)你心緒不安時,拿起紙筆寫下來會非常治愈。坐在鍵盤前的效果可不如找一個安靜的地方坐下,把你的想法全部寫下來。你不必和任何人分享這些想法,不過你也可以把你寫下來的深刻想法給某位顧問或治療師看看,讓他們幫你理解你在自己身上發(fā)現(xiàn)的問題。當(dāng)你出現(xiàn)下面這些問題時就可以通過文字的力量來想清楚。
1. You’re Angry
你感到憤怒
Pick up a pen and write down exactly why you are angry. Now make a decision to let it go. Holding onto the anger doesn’t affect the other person, the company, or the situation one bit: only you can decide when you’ve had enough.
拿起一支筆,寫下你究竟為何憤怒?,F(xiàn)在做一個決定,放下這些不快。糾結(jié)于憤怒絲毫不會對別人、公司或者這件事產(chǎn)生任何影響:只有你能決定你何時應(yīng)該解脫。
2. You’re Stressed
你感到有壓力
Start by writing down the words, “I’m feeling stressed” and then go on to describe what that feels like. Your brain needs to get off the cycle of spinning around in circles so you can start focusing on solutions.
一開始先寫下“我感覺到有壓力”,然后描述這種感覺是怎樣的。你的大腦需要從毫無進展的死胡同里擺脫出來,這樣你才能開始專注于解決問題。
3. You’re Depressed
你感到沮喪
Journaling can help you document your recovery as you recover from depression. You can look back over time and see that you are making progress, even if you don’t notice that you are feeling better day to day.
當(dāng)你從沮喪中恢復(fù)的時候,日記可以幫你記錄你的恢復(fù)過程。你可以回顧過去,看見自己正在進步。哪怕你并沒有察覺,其實你每天都比前一天感覺更好。
4. You’re Anxious
你感到焦慮
Write down the issue that you are concerned about and its consequences; it can help you put things into perspective, and save the response for when you really need it.
寫下你擔(dān)心的事情以及它的后果;這樣有助于你以長遠眼光來看問題,把應(yīng)對措施留給你真正需要的時候。
5. You’re Confused
你感到困惑
We all get stuck sometimes and have no idea what to do next. Start with what you know and build out from there. You may find that you have more answers (and options) than you originally thought.
有時候我們都會遇到瓶頸,不知道接下來該怎么做。從你知道的開始,一點一點想辦法。你也許會發(fā)現(xiàn)你比原本想象的有更多答案和選擇。
6. You’re Afraid
你感到害怕
Write down exactly what you are afraid of. Let your words shine a light on it and stare it down. Is it something you can control or do something about? Then take action. If not, you may need to decide to let it go, either on your own or with professional help.
寫下你到底害怕什么。盯著你寫下的文字看,讓恐懼的光芒黯淡下去。這件事你是否可以控制或者做些什么?那么就采取行動。如果不能,你也許應(yīng)該決心放下它,不管是依靠你自己還是專業(yè)幫助。
7. You’re Grieving
你感到悲傷
If you have experienced a loss, your grief may come in waves. Write down memories of your loved one, what it feels like to be without him or her, your anger, sadness, or whatever you are feeling on a particular day. The paper is a safe place for you to unload all of those feelings.
如果你失去了什么,你的悲傷也許會波浪一般襲來。寫下關(guān)于你愛的人的回憶,沒有了他或她你是什么感覺,還有你在特別的某一天的感受,無論是生氣還是悲傷。這張紙對你來說是個安全的地方,可以讓你卸下這些感受。
8. You Feel “Blue”
你感到憂郁
On days when you feel out of sorts and can’t seem to get out of a funk, pull out a pad of paper and start writing about it. Some people find it helpful to remind themselves that even the worst day will pass and that things will get better. Another approach is to give yourself a limited time (15-20 minutes) to feel icky and write about it. Then get on with your day in a more positive frame of mind.
當(dāng)你感覺心情不好,而且好像無法擺脫這種感覺時,拿出一疊紙,開始寫下你的感覺。有的人認為這能提醒他們,即使最壞的日子也會過去,事情都會好轉(zhuǎn),這樣很有幫助。另一個辦法是給自己限定一個時間(15-20分鐘)體會這種糟糕的感覺,并且寫下來。然后再帶著更加積極的心態(tài)繼續(xù)過這一天。
9. You’re in Physical Pain
你正在承受身體的疼痛
People who live with chronic pain have a lot on their plate, even at the best of times. Writing about how you feel about the pain can be a good coping strategy, especially if you share what you have written with your health care team. Your doctor wants to know if you are feeling angry, depressed, frustrated, hopeless, etc. Putting pen to paper can also be a distraction from the physical sensations when you are having a challenging time.
那些承受慢性疼痛的人都有些情緒問題,哪怕是在情況最好的時候。寫下你對于疼痛的感覺是一個很好的應(yīng)對辦法,尤其是如果你把你寫的東西分享給你的醫(yī)療團隊。你的醫(yī)生想知道你是否有憤怒、沮喪、泄氣、絕望等感覺。當(dāng)你遭遇疼痛挑戰(zhàn)時,把感覺寫下來還能分散身體疼痛的注意力。
10. You’re Struggling with Low Self-esteem
你在和自信心低落作斗爭
If your self-esteem has taken a beating and you’re feeling less than great about yourself, it’s time to do some work to build yourself back up. What would you say to a good friend in your shoes? Think of something positive about yourself and write it down. Then add something else. It doesn’t matter what these statements are; no one is going to see them. They can be sweet or silly. The important thing is that they mean something to you. Save that piece of paper and refer to it whenever you need a boost.
如果你的自信心受到了打擊,而且你對自己的感覺不太好,是時候做點什么讓你復(fù)原了。你會對你的秘密好友說什么?想想自己積極的一面并且把它寫下來。然后補充一些東西。你怎樣寫的不重要,沒有人會看到這些。它們可以親切貼心也可以傻里傻氣。重要的在于它們對你而言有意義。把這張紙保存起來,當(dāng)你需要加油打氣時就拿出來看看。
Writing can be a wonderful way to relieve stress, help you see things clearly, and give yourself a much-needed boost when you need it. Why don’t you make a point of spending some quality time with a pen and some paper today?
書寫對于減輕壓力、幫你看清問題、需要時給你增加必要的自信是非常有幫助的。你今天為什么不考慮拿起紙和筆寫點東西呢??