愛情靠經(jīng)營:和愛人一起做的14件事
作者:歪歪Purple 譯
來源:lifehack
2014-11-03 09:00
Romantic relationships can be the most wonderful part about your life, but they can also be the worst. What are some things you can do in your relationship to move it towards the “wonderful” spectrum?
浪漫的愛情莫過于是生活中最精彩的一部分,但也可能會(huì)是最糟糕的。想要感情達(dá)到完美的狀態(tài),我們就一起看看下面情侶間可以做的事情吧。
1. Talk about your day
談?wù)撽P(guān)于自己的一天
In any relationship, sharing every day experiences can help both sides. The person sharing can get any frustrations or thoughts off of his/her chest and the listener gets to know more about the other person.
在任何關(guān)系里,分享每天的經(jīng)歷對雙方都有好處。分享的那個(gè)人能把心中的郁悶和想法釋放出來,另一個(gè)則能更好的了解對方。
2. Play together
在一起玩
One important thing you can do in your relationship is to have fun and be silly together. Find a sitcom you both enjoy or Google jokes to tell each other. We’ve all heard that the best medicine is laughter, right? You can also break out the board games and a bottle of wine for a night of playful competition.
情侶關(guān)系中一件重要的事情在于你們可以一起玩樂一起做些傻事。找一個(gè)大家都喜歡的情景喜劇或者網(wǎng)絡(luò)笑話一起樂樂吧。我們都聽過一句話,笑容是最好的治愈良藥,對吧?你還可以和對方一起喝點(diǎn)啤酒,來一場桌游,度過一個(gè)歡樂競爭的美好夜晚。
3. Make food together
一起做飯
Whether it’s cooking dinner or whipping up homemade chocolate chip cookies, food brings people together. You not only get to spend time together in the kitchen, but you also get to revel in the success of your dish and enjoy a meal together.
無論是燒飯還是手工做些巧克力餅干,食物可以把吃貨們捆綁在一起。你們不僅在廚房共度時(shí)光,還能做出美食,一起吃一頓美餐。
4. Define boundaries
設(shè)定界限
Whether you’ve been together five days, five weeks or five years, you might not be on the same page all of the time. You need to let the other person know what is and is not okay in regards to the relationship. This knowledge will allow you both to feel more relaxed, safe and comfortable.
無論你們在一起五天、五周還是五年,你都不可能時(shí)時(shí)刻刻和他想到一塊兒去。你需要讓另外一個(gè)人知道,在這段感情中什么是可以做的什么是不可以做的。這樣你們倆人都會(huì)感到輕松、安全和舒服。
5. Be honest
誠實(shí)點(diǎn)
Nothing hurts a relationship like a lie. It might not even be a huge deal, but the deception alone breaks trust that can be hard to recover. If you are feeling guilty about something, however small, it might be best to confess right away to ensure it doesn’t come up later.
沒有什么比謊言更能打敗愛情的了。也許不是什么大事,但欺騙本身就會(huì)破壞信任,再難修復(fù)。如果你對什么有一種負(fù)罪感,無論多小,也許解決它的最好方式就是去承認(rèn),只要敢于承認(rèn),怎么都不算晚。
6. Snuggle
依偎
Physical touch is so important to feel connected with your partner. Grab some popcorn and your favorite, movie and hunker down for a cozy night together.
身體的接觸對于兩個(gè)人之間的親密感也非常重要。一份爆米花,一部你最愛的電影,兩個(gè)人舒舒服服的度過溫馨的夜晚吧。
7. Text good morning or good night
發(fā)短信祝早安或晚安
Starting and/or ending the day showing your love you are thinking of him/her can help strengthen your relationship.
開始/結(jié)束一天,不妨發(fā)個(gè)短信給她來表示你會(huì)想到她吧,有利于增強(qiáng)你們的關(guān)系。
8. Encourage each other
互相鼓勵(lì)
Whether your loved one is in school or working a job, he/she needs to know you support what he/she does! Surprise your special someone a note of encouragement.
無論你愛的人是學(xué)生還是已經(jīng)工作,他/她都需要你支持他/她做的每一件事情。給愛人留一個(gè)鼓勵(lì)的便條,給他/她點(diǎn)特別的驚喜吧。
9. Hang out together in a group
一群人出去玩
Spending time as a couple is important, but it’s also important to see your partner interact with other people. You will likely remember why you fell for this person in the first place.
二人世界固然重要,但也別忘了去和朋友接觸交流。你也許記起在感情的最初,你為什么會(huì)愛上這個(gè)人。
10. Sweat together
一起流汗
Being physically fit is important as it is, but those who are in romantic relationships tend to ditch the gym in favor of spending time with his/her loved one. Why not combine together time and gym time? Most individuals find it attractive to see their partner break a sweat!
身體健康是非常重要的,但有伴侶的不妨和愛人一起選擇在健身房共度時(shí)光吧。為什么不一起去健身呢?大部分人都覺得伴侶在大汗淋漓的時(shí)候最有魅力呢!
11. Be willing to compromise
愿意妥協(xié)
You might not always see eye to eye in your relationship; after all, you are two different people! The key is to be understanding of the other person’s ideals and when possible, meet halfway. This does not mean you have to give up everything you believe in, however it also means that you might not get your way every time. Accepting this balance is key in a healthy partnership.
在這段感情你可能不會(huì)一直跟對方意見完全一致,畢竟你們是不一樣的個(gè)體。關(guān)鍵在于要去了解對方的想法,合適的時(shí)候,需要大家各自退讓。這不意味著你要放棄自己所堅(jiān)信的所有東西,而是說你沒必要一味的去堅(jiān)持自己的做派。要想關(guān)系健康發(fā)展,就要平衡好這一切。
12. Compliment each other
贊美對方
There is plenty of pressure from the outside world to be perfect—the perfect body, the perfect disposition, to be the most successful. A romantic relationship should be a safe place, so reassure your partner that he/she is attractive, loveable, and accomplished.
外界環(huán)境有太多的壓力,我們都想做到最好——最好的身體,最好的性情,來達(dá)到最成功的的狀態(tài)。而一個(gè)浪漫的愛情關(guān)系應(yīng)該是溫馨的港灣,所以不妨夸夸另一半是多么的有魅力、多么可愛以及成功吧。
13. Travel together
一起旅游
Exploring a new location, soaking up the sun, and trying new restaurants can help you further the bond of your relationship. If you travel via car to said destination, there is bound to be lots of conversations. You will surely get to know each other much better.
去一個(gè)新的地方探險(xiǎn),沐浴在陽光下,嘗試一家新飯店,這些都能增進(jìn)你們之間的感情。如果你是自駕去目的地,那么沿途可以一直說話。你們就可以更多了解對方啦。
14. Be willing to work
愿意區(qū)域努力
The final is a must. Relationships can be fun, but you also may encounter rough times. You must work through this to make your bond deeper and come out the other side stronger and happier than ever.
最后一點(diǎn)至關(guān)重要。關(guān)系可以是輕松愉快的,但也可能會(huì)遇到艱難期。你必須熬過這些來加深感情,從外面加固它,這樣才能一直開心下去。
There might not be as much stress if you are not in a romantic relationship, but you certainly will not find the benefits of truly sharing life and love with someone if you don’t take the plunge!
如果不是在甜蜜戀愛中,也許不會(huì)帶來太大的壓力,但如果你不采取策略,就肯定無法領(lǐng)會(huì)好的感情所帶來的生活和愛啦。