Dear Cutie-Pie,
我的寶貝小甜心：

Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was "How to keep him interested."
最近我和你媽媽準(zhǔn)備在谷歌上搜一個答案。還沒輸完整個問題，谷歌就顯示了一列世界上最常見的搜索。其中排在第一的是“怎么能讓他一直對我感興趣”。

It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.
這讓我有點震驚。我瀏覽了無數(shù)相關(guān)的論文，這些文章都是關(guān)于女孩如何性感保持美麗，什么時候給他送上一杯啤酒和三明治，以及如何讓他覺得聰明和有優(yōu)越感。

And I got angry.
我怒了。

Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to "keep him interested."
親愛的寶貝，你從來，完全都不需要，“讓他一直對你感興趣?！?/div>

Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul -- in that unshakeable place that isn't rattled by rejection and loss and ego -- that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)
親愛的，你唯一的任務(wù)就是不斷去了解自己的靈魂——你不該讓拒絕、失去和自我占據(jù)那個不可撼動的領(lǐng)域——這樣你才值得被喜歡。（如果你還能知道每個人都值得被喜歡，那么你的人生已經(jīng)基本贏了。改天我會在另一封信里再寫這部分。）

If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest in you.
如果你相信自己的價值，那么你的魅力就能用最重要的這句話來形容：你會吸引有能力去愛你同時也想花一輩子時間好好愛你的男生。

Little One, I want to tell you about the boy who doesn't need to be kept interested, because he knows you are interesting.
親愛的，我想告訴你，不用刻意在男生面前保持新鮮感，他會知道你的好和魅力所在。

I don't care if he puts his elbows on the dinner table -- as long as he puts his eyes on the way your nose scrunches when you smile. And then can't stop looking.
我不介意他吃飯時會不會把手放桌子上——只要他會把注意力放在你身上，哪怕你大笑時鼻子都發(fā)出了怪聲，還是止不住的一直看著你。

I don't care if he can't play a bit of golf with me -- as long as he can play with the children you give him and revel in all the glorious and frustrating ways they are just like you.
我不介意他不會陪我打高爾夫——只要他能和孩子們玩得開心，并且陶醉于孩子們和你是多么地相像。

I don't care if he doesn't follow his wallet -- as long as he follows his heart and it always leads him back to you.
我不介意他忘帶錢包——只要他全心愛你如初，一直不離不棄。

I don't care if he is strong -- as long as he gives you the space to exercise the strength that is in your heart.
我不介意他是不是強(qiáng)壯——只要他能夠給你足夠空間，讓你去不斷鍛煉內(nèi)心的力量。

I couldn't care less how he votes -- as long as he wakes up every morning and daily elects you to a place of honor in your home and a place of reverence in his heart.
我一點也不關(guān)心他為誰投票——只要他每天早上醒來，都能把你“選”為家里的榮耀和他心中的女神。

I don't care about the color of his skin -- as long as he paints the canvas of your lives with brushstrokes of patience, and sacrifice, and vulnerability, and tenderness.
我不介意他的膚色——只要他能用耐心、犧牲、奉獻(xiàn)和溫柔的筆觸在你人生的畫布上盡情揮繪。

I don't care if he was raised in this religion or that religion or no religion -- as long as he?was raised to value the sacred and to know every moment of life, and every moment of life with you, is deeply sacred.
我不介意他是否有宗教信仰——只要他從小到大都信仰神圣，也知道生命的每個時刻，和你在一起的每分鐘，都是非常神圣的。

In the end, Little One, if you stumble across a man like that and he and I have nothing else in common, we will have the most important thing in common:
最后，親愛的，如果你遇到了這樣的男人，哪怕我和他完全沒有共同點，我們都會有一個最重要的共通之處：

You.
那就是你。

Because in the end, Little One, the only thing you should have to do to "keep him interested" is to be you.
最后，親愛的，想要讓他一直愛你如初的話，你唯一需要做的就是做你自己。

Your eternally interested guy,
永遠(yuǎn)愛你的

Daddy
爸爸