Let Go of Dating Myths

根除關(guān)于約會的荒誕想法

Dating is exhausting and not worth my time. I'll never meet The One. All the good ones are taken.

約會是很累的，不值得我浪費(fèi)時(shí)間。我永遠(yuǎn)碰不到合適的人。好的人都名花有主了。

These three statements are myths about dating that seriously require thought if they are going through your head. Dating isn't about negative thoughts; its about meeting as many interesting people as you can while having faith that you'll meet someone special.

這三個(gè)關(guān)于約會的想法是荒誕的，你要想想自己是否真的認(rèn)真考慮過了。約會不是消極的，帶著你終究會遇到對的人的想法，盡量和很多有趣的人約會。

Following this dating rule means you need to stop focusing on the person you are trying to meet, and focus on the spotlight instead on yourself.

照著這些約會準(zhǔn)則做的話就意味著你不能再一味地想著要找某個(gè)特定的人，而要將關(guān)注的重點(diǎn)放在自己身上。

Face Your Dating Fears

直面自己的約會恐懼

Feeling anxious or upset about the prospects of meeting someone new usually translates into fear. If the thoughts of never meeting someone special, being upset that your last partner refused to commit, or convincing yourself you aren't worth dating are taking over your thought processes, it is time to face your dating fears. By not following this dating rule and ignoring the issues, your inability to risk losing your heart will stop you from meeting someone special.

為要和某個(gè)人開始約會而感到焦慮不安或難過的話就是恐懼。你總是認(rèn)為自己碰不到特別的人的話，為了你所認(rèn)為的合適對象的拒絕而難過，或者總是認(rèn)為自己不值得約會，是時(shí)候?qū)⑦@些想法拋到一邊去了。如果你不照著這些約會規(guī)則，并且無視這些的話，你永遠(yuǎn)不會隨著自己的心找到那個(gè)特別的人。

Learn How To Flirt

學(xué)會調(diào)情

To attract new people, you'll need to show them you are interested - which means learning how to flirt. Virtually every single first encounter that leads to more starts with a smile, so this dating rule suggests smiling at everyone you encounter, without qualification. As well, understanding body language is a crucial part of meeting someone new and cannot be overlooked.

為了吸引新朋友，你要向他們展示你的風(fēng)趣，這就是說你要學(xué)會調(diào)情。實(shí)際上，當(dāng)兩個(gè)單身的人相遇的時(shí)候，都是從微笑開始的，然后才有下一步的發(fā)展，所以我們建議你對你遇到的每個(gè)人都無條件展開微笑。另外，懂得身體語言在與別人發(fā)展新關(guān)系中也是很重要的，不容忽視的。

Accept All Dates

接受所有的約會

If you want to follow the rules of dating to meet someone new, its time to stop making snap decisions about the people who ask you out for a date. If someone asks you for coffee, it is your responsibility to accept it, barring any issues with safety of course. A date is just a date - not a marriage proposal. It'll only take an hour or two, and by accepting all dates you'll move closer to meeting someone special while perfecting your notions of what kind of person you'd like to have in your life.

如果你想按照這些約會規(guī)則去和新朋友約會的話，那么就是時(shí)候不要再對向你提出約會的人挑三揀四了。如果有人邀請你一起去喝杯咖啡的話，你就接受，當(dāng)然是在安全的情況下。一次約會僅僅是一次約會罷了，不是求婚。只會占用你一到兩個(gè)小時(shí)的時(shí)間，而且接受所有的約會的話，你就離遇到那個(gè)特別的人更近了，因?yàn)橥ㄟ^多次約會，你就更能清楚地明白什么人才是你想要共度一生的人。