科學(xué)60秒:盲目的愛情更美好
來(lái)源：滬江聽寫酷
2011-07-20 10:00
They say that love is blind. And that’s probably for the best. Because a new study shows that people who greatly idealize their spouses have the happiest marriages. For the first few years, anyway. The research appears in the journal Psychological Science.
Most people mentally ____1____ their partners’ better qualities. At least during courtship. If we didn’t, who would ever tie the knot? But some folks take these fantasies to cartoonish extremes. Now, you’d think such people are in for a ____2____ when they realize they married a real human being with real human flaws. But this new study says it isn’t so.
Researchers recruited 222 newlywed couples and followed them for three years. They ____3____ asked the subjects to describe themselves and their partners. And they found that people who maintained the most unrealistic view of their better halves were actually the most satisfied with their marriage.
When the honeymoon’s over, it could be that those who idealize their mates may be more likely to forgive the ____4____ that arise when people are no longer ____5____. Whatever the reason, the study suggests that couples should exchange rings—and rose-colored glasses.
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Most people mentally ____1____ their partners’ better qualities. At least during courtship. If we didn’t, who would ever tie the knot? But some folks take these fantasies to cartoonish extremes. Now, you’d think such people are in for a ____2____ when they realize they married a real human being with real human flaws. But this new study says it isn’t so.
Researchers recruited 222 newlywed couples and followed them for three years. They ____3____ asked the subjects to describe themselves and their partners. And they found that people who maintained the most unrealistic view of their better halves were actually the most satisfied with their marriage.
When the honeymoon’s over, it could be that those who idealize their mates may be more likely to forgive the ____4____ that arise when people are no longer ____5____. Whatever the reason, the study suggests that couples should exchange rings—and rose-colored glasses.
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accentuate
rude awakening
periodically
transgressions
on their best behavior
人們都說(shuō)愛情是盲目的。但也許這才是最好的，因?yàn)橐豁?xiàng)新研究顯示，將他們的配偶大大理想化的人會(huì)擁有更快樂的婚姻，起碼前幾年會(huì)是這樣。這項(xiàng)研究刊登在《心理科學(xué)》雜志上。
很多人在心理上會(huì)過(guò)分強(qiáng)調(diào)戀人的優(yōu)點(diǎn)——至少在求婚階段是這樣，否則誰(shuí)還會(huì)結(jié)婚呢？但有些人將這些幻想過(guò)分卡通化了?，F(xiàn)在你可以想象，當(dāng)他們意識(shí)到走進(jìn)婚姻殿堂的伴侶是個(gè)普通人，有著常人的缺點(diǎn)時(shí)，這些人的幻想就會(huì)破滅了。但這項(xiàng)新研究顯示事實(shí)并不是這樣。
研究人員招募了222對(duì)新結(jié)婚的夫婦，跟蹤調(diào)查了他們?nèi)辍Ｑ芯咳藛T會(huì)周期性地讓他們描述一下自己和配偶。而他們發(fā)現(xiàn)，仍然對(duì)配偶懷有不切實(shí)際的幻想的人實(shí)際上對(duì)自己的婚姻更加滿意。
蜜月結(jié)束之后，當(dāng)人們不再將最好一面展現(xiàn)出來(lái)的時(shí)候，將配偶理想化的人更容易原諒對(duì)方的錯(cuò)誤。不論理由是什么，這項(xiàng)研究顯示，結(jié)婚的夫婦應(yīng)該在交換戒指的同時(shí)，交換一下自己過(guò)分樂觀的印象。